Controversial Christianity & Faith: May 2016

Monday 16 May 2016

How Deep Is Your Love?

I have something to admit. Ready for it? I like the Bee Gees! Have done for years, but was afraid to say so for many years. Phew, that’s a weight off my shoulders.

Anyway, I love their song ‘How Deep Is Your Love’, as it always seems to hit me somewhere emotionally and the very title itself and the lyrics of the song hit me too. They are somewhere between despairing of finding true love, and the constant quest we singletons all have to make a real connection with a member of the opposite sex, fall in love, have kids and get fat!!! But, I feel that it is so true to life, that even when we are balanced emotionally, we all swing from a kind of painful despair making us feel desperate that we’ll never meet anyone and then to a kind of idealised enforced optimism where we feel we are floating on a cloud moving ever towards the love of our life... and then return.

We have all been hurt in the process of finding someone to love. Good grief, I have a litany of failing in this department I could write a number of lengthy volumes about it. And, in the past, I have been hurt by women. Of course, being an over the top and at one time an emotionally unstable kind of person, I didn’t help matters by overreacting. But, I have noticed with many men and women I have known as friends, acquaintances and even passing strangers, that nobody likes to be rejected and anybody who tells another person to their face that they like them, and is then brushed off, is going to feel personal pain. That’s quite obvious really, but something that is often unacknowledged and often even seen as humorous somehow. It’s not that funny at the time, but there does have to be a balance. A lot of our self worth is tied in with ego, which is not healthy, and a lot of our self worth is tied in with how other people see us or how we perceive they see us and feel about us. Often, our best perceptions can actually be wrong, literally way off the mark. But I can say that if I liked a woman, I had to make myself known to her, had to make her laugh if she looked miserable, can’t really say why, and also tied my worth on how she might treat me or act towards me, or ignore me if that was the case. That stopped a long time ago. I don’t go to pubs or nightclubs anymore, don’t get drunk in public now, and prefer to socialise in restaurants very occasionally, and often go to cafes and coffee bars to chill out and meet up with friends.

How deep is your love? Are you a superficial person? Do you love God? Does God love you? I believe that God’s whole plan is to show us He loves us passionately, and that He wants to demonstrate that love and for us actually to feel that love by the indwelling of His Holy Spirit in us. How we complicate matters, and how we evade God time and time again by being religious or doing our own thing.

Have you ever hurt anyone when you knew they liked you romantically? Or, made them feel small because you didn’t feel the same way? I know I have. I’m like everyone else in that respect. I didn’t go out of my way to maliciously hurt or reject someone, but it was obvious when I didn’t have feelings for someone. Later on, of course, my feelings for that person could change and I would start to like them, but usually my complete disinterest at the start meant they wouldn’t come near me. However, for balance, the reverse has happened to me, and many times. I was rejected and my sense of revenge would go into overdrive and I wouldn’t even go near such a person again. I even fed off that negative and hateful energy and felt energised by it. Not good for the soul, all that, to be honest. It’s something I pray about regularly. Resentment is not something that is healthy in any way. It clouds sensible judgement, and what is more, you only notice bad things because you expect them and it’s a truism among truisms, that angry resentful people attract other angry resentful people. I’m a Christian, for Christ’s sake! I’m supposed to be nice, friendly and respectful of other people, and that includes women, I suppose.

It’s no more Mr Nasty Guy anymore, I’m changing. I really want to know how deep my love really goes, and where it will take me.

What we all are looking for are real connections, deeper relationships, in every area of our lives, whether friendships, family or the vexed question of romance. I do not settle for superficial anymore, and if I feel any kind of friendship or relationship is not up to much, I just make time for people who make time for me. God does not want a superficial relationship with us, nor for us to have superficial relationships with other people. They just don’t cut the mustard for me anymore, anyway. Simple, but deeper, relationships of all kinds. I want no less than this. I won’t settle for second best anymore.

I know your eyes in the morning sun
I feel you touch me in the pouring rain
And the moment that you wander far from me
I want to feel you in my arms again
And you come to me on a summer breeze
Keep me warm in your love, then you softly leave
And it's me you need to show

How deep is your love, how deep is your love
How deep is your love?
I really mean to learn
'Cause we're living in a world of fools
Breaking us down when they all should let us be
We belong to you and me

I believe in you
You know the door to my very soul
You're the light in my deepest, darkest hour
You're my savior when I fall
And you may not think I care for you
When you know down inside that I really do
And it's me you need to show

And you come to me on a summer breeze
Keep me warm in your love, then you softly leave
And it's me you need to show

How deep is your love, how deep is your love
I really mean to learn
'Cause we're living in a world of fools
Breaking us down when they all should let us be
We belong to you and me

Songwriters
BARRY GIBB, MAURICE ERNEST GIBB, ROBIN HUGH GIBB

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